Key characteristics: courage and boldness in defending truth. Righteous anger against hypocrisy, first self than others. Protection of the weak. Authority and leadership through servanthood.
Some of that toughness is lost in verses like husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church because we forget that Christ loved the church by teaching truth. Men need to learn truth in order to teach it to their wives. And at times you may need to use that truth to confront the hypocrisy of their often highly emotional wives. That can be uncomfortable.
What you mentioned leads to weak men but also to weak husbands and also to weak fathers.
But it's not just manhood it's all of discipleship and becoming half disciples:
Romans 8:29 we are all called to be conformed to the image of his son. 1st Peter 2:21 we are all called to suffer imagine how that would change the divorce rate. 1 Corinthians 11:1 be imitators of me as I am of Christ.
Women too have been given a plushie Jesus. One who doesn't confront them. One who doesn't ask hard questions of them. They think if Jesus were here he'd be running around trying to meet their love language instead of reprimanding them for the fact that no such thing exists in the Bible. Jesus showed love and whether you receive it or not doesn't invalidate the love.
So on point in a good reminder! For both men and women husbands and wives.
I needed to read this. We too easily fall into the sin of cowardice, dressed in the false clothes of love and understanding whilst the soul changing truth sits on the sidelines gathering the dust of neglect, to the suffering of both the saved and the lost. Thank you.
Once again, an article condemning men while explaining nothing. You claim there's a problem but say nothing about solutions for the average man. You act like this a man problem, when really its the feminization of Christianity. So, what does a man do? Buy a white horse and charge into the gay pride parade? What? In our daily lives how does your call to manhood play out?
I believe that this soft Christianity that seems to be very prevalent, let be honest, is coming from America, the small pastor churches and these mega churches that are so far removed from Christianity, its a joke in itself.
If you ever look at the great churches of Europe and the Middle East, you see history, culture and the foundation of Christianity and where its came from.
This soft approach is actually the complete opposite message that Jesus himself precahed. Yes he was a peaceful man but his words had weight.
Christianity is not soft religion. It is far from it.
This is an interesting reflection and it stirred a few thoughts for me as I read.
I resonate with the instinct that meekness is often misunderstood. Scripture never presents meekness as weakness. If anything, it seems closer to strength that has been disciplined and placed under control. The image that often comes to mind for me is someone who has a sword, knows how to use it, but chooses to keep it sheathed unless it becomes absolutely necessary.
That’s part of why Jesus’ words about the meek inheriting the earth have always intrigued me. It suggests that the people who ultimately shape the world are not the ones ruled by aggression or domination, but the ones whose strength has been formed by something deeper.
At the same time, when I look at the life of Jesus, what continues to surprise me is how often His power shows up in ways we wouldn’t normally associate with strength. He confronts evil, certainly. But the defining moment of His mission is still the cross — and the words “greater love has no man than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”
So as I read pieces like this, I find myself wondering if the tension we’re wrestling with isn’t between softness and strength, but between different kinds of power altogether.
Curious how others here are thinking about that tension as well.
Well said!
Key characteristics: courage and boldness in defending truth. Righteous anger against hypocrisy, first self than others. Protection of the weak. Authority and leadership through servanthood.
Some of that toughness is lost in verses like husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church because we forget that Christ loved the church by teaching truth. Men need to learn truth in order to teach it to their wives. And at times you may need to use that truth to confront the hypocrisy of their often highly emotional wives. That can be uncomfortable.
What you mentioned leads to weak men but also to weak husbands and also to weak fathers.
But it's not just manhood it's all of discipleship and becoming half disciples:
Romans 8:29 we are all called to be conformed to the image of his son. 1st Peter 2:21 we are all called to suffer imagine how that would change the divorce rate. 1 Corinthians 11:1 be imitators of me as I am of Christ.
Women too have been given a plushie Jesus. One who doesn't confront them. One who doesn't ask hard questions of them. They think if Jesus were here he'd be running around trying to meet their love language instead of reprimanding them for the fact that no such thing exists in the Bible. Jesus showed love and whether you receive it or not doesn't invalidate the love.
So on point in a good reminder! For both men and women husbands and wives.
I needed to read this. We too easily fall into the sin of cowardice, dressed in the false clothes of love and understanding whilst the soul changing truth sits on the sidelines gathering the dust of neglect, to the suffering of both the saved and the lost. Thank you.
Once again, an article condemning men while explaining nothing. You claim there's a problem but say nothing about solutions for the average man. You act like this a man problem, when really its the feminization of Christianity. So, what does a man do? Buy a white horse and charge into the gay pride parade? What? In our daily lives how does your call to manhood play out?
Happy to provide more actionable steps next time. Thanks for the feedback 🤝🏻
Doubtful.
This is what pastors always do. They judge and condemn but never actually give anything useful.
All of us, especially the men, must be able to withstand their “Garden of Gethsemene” moments.
Words that needed to be said.
I believe that this soft Christianity that seems to be very prevalent, let be honest, is coming from America, the small pastor churches and these mega churches that are so far removed from Christianity, its a joke in itself.
If you ever look at the great churches of Europe and the Middle East, you see history, culture and the foundation of Christianity and where its came from.
This soft approach is actually the complete opposite message that Jesus himself precahed. Yes he was a peaceful man but his words had weight.
Christianity is not soft religion. It is far from it.
That is why Jesus is the Lion and the Lamb!!!
This is an interesting reflection and it stirred a few thoughts for me as I read.
I resonate with the instinct that meekness is often misunderstood. Scripture never presents meekness as weakness. If anything, it seems closer to strength that has been disciplined and placed under control. The image that often comes to mind for me is someone who has a sword, knows how to use it, but chooses to keep it sheathed unless it becomes absolutely necessary.
That’s part of why Jesus’ words about the meek inheriting the earth have always intrigued me. It suggests that the people who ultimately shape the world are not the ones ruled by aggression or domination, but the ones whose strength has been formed by something deeper.
At the same time, when I look at the life of Jesus, what continues to surprise me is how often His power shows up in ways we wouldn’t normally associate with strength. He confronts evil, certainly. But the defining moment of His mission is still the cross — and the words “greater love has no man than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”
So as I read pieces like this, I find myself wondering if the tension we’re wrestling with isn’t between softness and strength, but between different kinds of power altogether.
Curious how others here are thinking about that tension as well.