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D.B.Doherty's avatar

Nice guy Christianity produces zero saints zero martyrs zero conversions but hey, at least nobodys feelings got hurt 😂😂😂

AnAmericanReader's avatar

So, being polite and courteous is now unscriptural for men? Wives, coworkers, friends, and church members need more courtesy, not less. It’s unclear what bold Christian proclamations are jeopardized by being polite. Speaking the truth with gentleness and respect is not in conflict with manhood.

After His Heart 🕊️'s avatar

I suppose a big factor in all this is also driven by the proliferation of feminism in secular society. Unfortunately, it’s trickling down into church culture.

Yvonne Mutch's avatar

I also appreciated one of your secondary points - that the Kingdom of God is not some future reality, it is here and now. And Amen, it's the kindness of God that leads men to repentance, and Goodness that advances His kingdom. Niceness has never done a thing to advance the kingdom of God, niceness has never stormed the gates of hell and prevailed. Maybe the worldly saying, " nice guys finish last" has a level of application here.

Fiona Grayson's avatar

Friendly reminder: Your faith isn’t measured by how many people you offend. Opposition is not proof of righteousness.

The Strategic Withdrawal's avatar

Great observation on the niceness trap. I've seen this play out in my own life. Greatly appreciate the insight and tools for course correction. Thanks for sharing!

Scott Gann's avatar

I’m also writing a blog touching on the same topic from a different lens. I address the toxic alpha male vs the “nice guy” beta male spectrum in my opening post. Would love to get your thoughts on my work

https://substack.com/@scottgann/note/p-157041518?r=21zlp8&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=notes-share-action

Scott Gann's avatar

An excellent way to kick off the week. You did a great job identifying the problem of being a “nice guy” and providing a redemptive alternative of being a strong, principled and kind man modeled by Christ. I’d love to hear your perspective on other Biblical men and/or early church fathers who reflected this balanced, bold lived-out faith